Gosh, for so many years I felt it was such a cop out, especially around other guys, to say it out loud. I know so many guys who just hop on an app and date like it is a sport or ask any girl out and not care about the consequences of bad or disingenuous behavior. When Dr. Rick Hanson said that it was a top reason for many of his clients I felt so validated.
Thank you Rebecca 🙏 It is so tricky and challenging. I have gotten better with time in terms of really honing in on the emotional honesty part. I do believe that people can only be as open and intimate with you as they are with themselves. There are a few special ones I know I let go too early due to immaturity. How about you? Do you also struggle with ending things gracefully?
‘Picky’ is the price we pay for discernment. For boundaries. For owning responsibility for our own self-worth. Sure, it reduces the potential pool significantly but, much like you, I don’t have an infinite number of broken hearts left in me. I’d rather take that risk on something that feels authentic and connected.
Rejection is protection. Whether you’re calling it or they are, you’re on the hook for being clear and open with how you feel and what you want. That’s it. It will almost 100% cause pain, but it’s also redirecting you and the other person towards what is truly meant for you both. And protecting you from investing further in something that isn’t ❤️
Thank you Evie 🙏🤗 You’ve really helped me gain clarity on who I am and what truly aligns with me. I’ve been getting better at honoring that, even when it’s deeply uncomfortable. Sometimes I feel like I’ve let people down or abandoned them and that ache can be hard to sit with. Once the discomfort wanes, I begin to feel something new underneath: self-respect.
I love this line from Sex Education: “People deserve your whole heart. If you can’t give them that, it’s better they know. It’s the kinder thing to do.” It reminds me that honesty, even when painful, is a form of love.
Also - I listen to that same podcast 😉
Gosh, for so many years I felt it was such a cop out, especially around other guys, to say it out loud. I know so many guys who just hop on an app and date like it is a sport or ask any girl out and not care about the consequences of bad or disingenuous behavior. When Dr. Rick Hanson said that it was a top reason for many of his clients I felt so validated.
Wow! This hit hard for me. I really struggle with trying not to hurt others and wonder if I call things too early.
Thank you Rebecca 🙏 It is so tricky and challenging. I have gotten better with time in terms of really honing in on the emotional honesty part. I do believe that people can only be as open and intimate with you as they are with themselves. There are a few special ones I know I let go too early due to immaturity. How about you? Do you also struggle with ending things gracefully?
Incredible work Mark, I really feel like some of your best writing I have read so far.
Thank you Sir 🙏
‘Picky’ is the price we pay for discernment. For boundaries. For owning responsibility for our own self-worth. Sure, it reduces the potential pool significantly but, much like you, I don’t have an infinite number of broken hearts left in me. I’d rather take that risk on something that feels authentic and connected.
Rejection is protection. Whether you’re calling it or they are, you’re on the hook for being clear and open with how you feel and what you want. That’s it. It will almost 100% cause pain, but it’s also redirecting you and the other person towards what is truly meant for you both. And protecting you from investing further in something that isn’t ❤️
Thank you Evie 🙏🤗 You’ve really helped me gain clarity on who I am and what truly aligns with me. I’ve been getting better at honoring that, even when it’s deeply uncomfortable. Sometimes I feel like I’ve let people down or abandoned them and that ache can be hard to sit with. Once the discomfort wanes, I begin to feel something new underneath: self-respect.
I love this line from Sex Education: “People deserve your whole heart. If you can’t give them that, it’s better they know. It’s the kinder thing to do.” It reminds me that honesty, even when painful, is a form of love.