I don’t think anyone really gets married thinking they will end up divorced. The thing is, the foundation really needs to be rock solid - and based on deep, genuine connection, not superficiality or self-serving needs - to be able to withstand navigating life with another human. You can’t just get married and think ‘there, that’s done.’ It’s only the beginning.
As you describe so well here, divorce absolutely brings out the worst in people. And, in my experience, this is because the most painful part of divorce is realising and accepting your own role in it. Not because you could have necessarily prevented it, but because you want so badly to blame other people and things. Shame and guilt on full display.
But, ultimately, it’s about the choices two people make. Daily. To be in service to the relationship while honouring themselves. I think we underestimate how hard that is to do.
I don’t think anyone really gets married thinking they will end up divorced. The thing is, the foundation really needs to be rock solid - and based on deep, genuine connection, not superficiality or self-serving needs - to be able to withstand navigating life with another human. You can’t just get married and think ‘there, that’s done.’ It’s only the beginning.
As you describe so well here, divorce absolutely brings out the worst in people. And, in my experience, this is because the most painful part of divorce is realising and accepting your own role in it. Not because you could have necessarily prevented it, but because you want so badly to blame other people and things. Shame and guilt on full display.
But, ultimately, it’s about the choices two people make. Daily. To be in service to the relationship while honouring themselves. I think we underestimate how hard that is to do.
Thank you Evie 🙏 I deeply appreciate you sharing your "heartbreak" expertise 🤗
PS can you believe I haven’t seen Marriage Story yet?? I’m waiting until I have the space to cry my little heart out…
OH yeah you have to have emotional bandwidth to watch Marriage Story. Can't wait to you watch it so we can chat about it 🤗